How To Respond Rather Than React: Master Conscious Reactivity & Awareness To Anger, Fear & Shame

Happiness is a choice, being offended is a choice. There is always the choice to look at situations as the observers. Always ask yourself in situations where someone is commenting negatively about your body, work or life in general- could this be my ego reacting?


Even the strongest of us might become engrossed in our feelings.


The first step toward freedom is awareness.


There are times in life when you may feel as if the terrible emotions you've experienced as a result of a circumstance will never leave you. But here's the thing: they always will. There is a beginning, a middle, and an end to every emotion. They're only there for a short time. The genuine you—the witness to your feelings, not the emotions themselves—is the unchanging, ever-present pure potential inside which the idea is occurring. Emotions are nothing more than brief bursts of energy in motion that you experience through your mind-body system.


One technique you've learnt to help you release emotional stress and move beyond mental activity is meditation. There are, however, a variety of additional mindful awareness skills you may use to learn to recognise, release, and use your feelings to achieve balance and wholeness in your life.


There are no restrictions on the variety of emotions and responses that can be expressed, and they do not have to be linear or hierarchical. You can have moments of divine response at any time in your life. Higher answers appear more frequently in your life as you continue your meditation and self-realization journey.


Depak Chopras STOP Technique



There's a simple mnemonic device you may use to transition your state of awareness from ego-identity to spirit-identity and perform the next proper action whenever you're unhappy, mad, concerned, frustrated, or disappointed.


Conscious Communication


Choose your words wisely. The purpose of conscious communication is to describe your feelings and emotions in a way that allows you to feel more empowered. When you can describe your emotions from a place of self-awareness, you have all you need to deal with any emotions that arise. Your emotions are not under anyone else's control. You're in control.


We all have different communication traits, which is cool because that makes us unique, but sometimes that could lead miscommunication and then conflict.


Our Doshas influence the way we communicate. Often Vatas would say 'Why is everyone yelling' to which Pittas will respond to 'I am not yelling, I am just excited' and Kaphas would comment 'everyone let's take a deep breath'.


Noticing such 'communication traits' could then help us avoid conflict. They might also help you understand how and why you, and the people around you, use specific words. The more you're conscious of these habits, the better you'll be at meeting your needs. The more directly and consciously you express yourself, the more likely your wants will be met.


What you'll gain from conscious communication


1) Healthier relationships with others: being able to communicate clearly and express your feelings will allow you to connect with people on a deeper level.

2) Create your own emotional reality: by choosing the words you use carefully you can help manifest the emotional reactions from yourself and others that you intend.

3) Increase emotional wellbeing: having more ownership over your words, and thus emotions, will help you respond in compassionate ways towards yourself and others.


You'll start to release repressed or trapped emotions and modify your viewpoint on your relationships if you combine it with regular meditation. As a result, you open yourself up to the kind of meaningful relationships you want (and deserve!).


Self-referral vs. object-referral


We give up emotional control when we use language that focuses on external situations.


What is the distinction between being neglected and being lonely? Neglected is all about the object. It assigns responsibility for how you're feeling to someone or something else. You have no control when you utilise language that focuses on object-referral. Because you are not the one who is neglecting, there is nothing you can do to change the sensation of neglect.


Taking responsibility for your feelings by expressing loneliness is a form of self-expression. It returns control to you. It's self-referral lingo. If you're lonely, what can you do? You can pay a visit to those you care about. You can take part in activities where you can meet new people.


You have no influence over what occurs to you. You may, however, choose how you react or respond. Instead of focusing on external situations beyond your control, these minor modifications in language can empower you to make choices to modify your feelings.


Here is a diagram for you to look at. Whenever you experience object referral, try and do an experiment by swapping it for self-referral. See what happens... you might be pleasantly surprised how quickly you can turn the situation around. After all, now that you're in control, you actually can.



If your boss is overworking you, instead of saying 'you're giving me too much work', let him or her know that you are feeling overwhelmed. This way, he is more likely to react with compassion rather than be defensive. Or, if you don't want to have that conversation, nonetheless aim towards self-referral, because whilst you cannot do anything about your workload in the given moment, you can consciously realise that you're overwhelmed rather than overworked. This way you can go and meditate for a couple of minutes, and decrease the overwhelming feelings, rather than sit there and continue stressing about the situation.


Emotional ama that isn't discharged might cause major physical problems.


Emotional cleaning detoxifies your mind, body, and soul in just seven steps.


I'm sure you have heard of cases where patients with terrible diagnosis, sometimes only having 4-5 months to live, survived due to some kind of emotional cleansing. Dr emma actually talked about how one of her patients was diagnosed with terminal cancer and it was not only stage four but also a type of cancer that was very rare and had no mainstream form of treatment. She was eating healthy and working out regularly. However she did have this feeling that some of her past ones may not have healed. Therefore she decided to do some emotional cleansing and it is safe to say a couple of months later her cancer was gone.


Ayurveda understands that emotional factors play a role in around two-thirds of our physical problems. Emotional release practise can be a very effective method of body healing.


Simple practices have immense healing powers. Check out my next blog if you would like to learn more about how to emotionally cleanse yourself in 7 easy steps. Sometimes this can be challenging and doing it on your own can make you feel uneasy. I did this with a trusted certified guide and maybe you want to too. So, if you would like my help in guiding you towards perfect health, then please join my waiting list here.


Sending you healing energy and love,


Anya xxx

7 views0 comments