How to 'Control' Your Emotions & Not Be Overwhelmed- Improve Emotional Intelligence With Ayurveda

I'm going to be honest with you the title is slightly misleading because in general, I don't really think that we can control our emotions. We can change how we can react to emotions and we can definitely change the way we perceive them but altering their state in the very moment that they occur, whilst might be possible, in my opinion, is a bit unhealthy. When I say 'unhealthy' it in the literal sense. For example, if we are angry but do not let ourselves feel angry and release that anger is some way, that energy will then stay in our body and can even manifest itself in illnesses. I could write a whole book on these topics, not only because I have studied it, but because I have personally experienced it in my life. Whenever I would catch a cold, or be ill in some way, it would always be due to some kind of fear or stress that I covered up and did not express. I will give you an example; I was looking after my sister and I pretended like I was super chilled the whole time, when in reality I was super stressed. I had to organize the flights, the antibody tests, talking to her summer camp, doing the flight transfer... then I had to actually look after her and, again, that was physiologically challenging as I didn't know whether to act like her parent or a friend. After she left I came down with the most terrible flu, I felt even worse then I did when I had the vid. I was also always ill after exams or stressful moments, I would also always get terrible migraines after not expressing my anger towards my parents... the list could go on and on.

Anyways I got slightly side tracked there...

Emotion is energy in motion. They are vehicles of transformation. - Dr.Mona Saint

Break down the emotional wall.

Instead of being overwhelmed by your emotions, you will learn to use them in this session.

Emotional intelligence is defined as the capacity to detect and regulate your emotions in a way that benefits you. It also includes your capacity to recognise and respond correctly to other people's emotions.

Improving Your Emotional Intelligence Will Help You:

1) You'll be able to accomplish the following things with increased emotional intelligence.

2) Your feelings will be better understood and accepted.

3) Spend less time trying to control your emotions and more time embracing, witnessing, and responding to the complete range of feelings that pass through your body.

4) Improved capacity to effectively perceive and respond appropriately to other people's emotions.

Emotional intelligence is defined as the capacity to detect and regulate your emotions in a way that benefits you. It also includes your capacity to recognise and respond correctly to other people's emotions.

In order for us to master Emotional Intelligence we have to first understand how emotions work.

So what are emotions? Emotions are, at their foundation, bodily experiences linked to mental thoughts. Learning to analyse your emotions, as difficult as it may seem at times, is relatively simple.

How Do Emotions Work?

1) You have a thought which creates sensations (emotions) in your body

2) That sensation then leads to further thoughts

3) You then make choices based on those thoughts

Are used to think it's the other way around you get angry and then I have an angry thought but once I heard this my understanding of emotions changed completely. If someone drops their laptop on your floor, whether you get angry or feel compassionate depends on your thought. If you feel angry then your thoughts would probably have been 'Damn you, you dropped your laptop on my floor!', but if you felt compassionate then your thought would have been 'oh no is your laptop okay?'.

The state of your emotions has an impact on your physical health. The opposite is also true: physical health has an impact on mental and emotional states. Emotional well-being is the combination of mind, body, and spirit.

The link between mind and body

Every thought and emotion has a physical manifestation. The brain sends chemical impulses to every cell in the body, including the liver, heart, digestive tract, and immune system. According to Ayurveda, the mind is present in every cell of the body. Every choice you make has repercussions that affect trillions of cells. A cell, too, can be joyful or sad, anxious or satisfied, worried or relaxed. Every cell in our body reacts to our ideas and feelings.

The fight or flight-freeze reaction is triggered when you experience fear, anxiety, or other negative emotions. This causes your heart rate to rise, as well as the release of cortisol, adrenaline, and other stress hormones. This information is communicated back to the emotional portions of the brain and other body systems. Sometimes this is very useful in stressful or dangerous situations. But if you're constantly in that state, usually due to an inability to let go or process past trauma then that could manifest in the form of disease both mental and physical.

If you've read my previous blog on physcial ama, you know that we as humans experience toxicity in the body but there's also mental ama, which is emotional toxicity.

Here are the signs that you are experiencing emotional toxicity




Lack of Enthusiasm


Emotional Reactivity

When it comes to your nutrition, your agni (digestive fire) metabolises all of your food. Emotions are also metabolised. Emotions that haven't been properly digested accumulate in the body, causing mental toxicity, or emotional ama—the toxic residue that forms when something isn't totally processed.

These could be—and frequently are—emotions we've been holding onto since we were children. We aren't often taught or encouraged to feel and process our emotions fully, so we shove them into our bodies and go on.

In Ayurveda, suffering is the result of emotional ama.

Pain is something that everyone goes through at some point in their lives. It can't be avoided. When you are in pain, though, you may either acknowledge it and go on, or you can hold on to it and try to address it later. We aren't always taught or encouraged to feel and express our emotions, which is unfortunate. That suppressed anguish builds up emotional ama over time, resulting in suffering.

What causes emotional Ama?

Anticipated anxiety or pain

Past anger or pain that has not been processed, embraced or released at the time of its occurrence

Despair or sadness from the past that was not expressed


All of these diverse types of emotional ama have one thing in common: they're all caused by avoiding pain when it happens.

But it doesn't become suffering if you use the skills you've acquired through personal awareness and meditation, as well as acknowledging the discomfort and let it pass through you, which I will talk about in more detail now.

You can lessen your weight and emotional baggage by releasing unresolved emotions and prior traumas. This way your emotional agni handles emotional pain more swiftly, allowing you to move on faster.

You connect to the inner bliss that already exists within you when your agni is powerful.

I'm sure you're not gonna be surprised by the fact that your body/Dosha (prakruti and vikruti) type can influence your emotional reactivity. Your very nature from birth gave you a specific predisposition to the way you react to various circumstances that life throws at you. We all have elements of air, fire and earth in us, however more often than not, during our lifetime our elements become unbalanced. Which can lead to anxiety, irritability or lethargy.

Vata Imbalances

If you have too much air and space, emotionally that can increase feelings of anxiety and worry.

Vatas usually blame themselves in situations and get easily overwhelmed.

Pitta Imbalance

If you have too much fire then usually you get more easily irritated and angry. Pittas can often snap at other people and become more destructively reactive.

Kapha Imbalance

If you're Kapha is imbalanced than that can weigh you down leading to feelings of stagnation, depression, where you're not motivated to do anything. In general, Kaphas are usually less phased in stressful situations.

If you feel like you're experiencing emotional ama or any of the imbalances mentioned above, do not worry, you are not alone. There is a path towards perfect health and I would love to help you feel more centred, energetic, and awake with possibilities! Therefore, please join my waiting list here.

Sending you peace, love and joy,

Anya xxx

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