'Emotional baggage' that isn't discharged might cause major physical problems.
I mentioned this in my previous blog, but I will mention it again. I'm sure you have heard of cases where patients with terrible diagnosis, sometimes only having 4-5 months to live, survived due to some kind of emotional cleansing. Dr.Mona Saint actually talked about how one of her patients was diagnosed with terminal cancer and it was not only stage four but also a type of cancer that was very rare and had no mainstream form of treatment. She was eating healthy and working out regularly. However she did have this feeling that some of her past ones may not have healed. Therefore she decided to do some emotional cleansing and it is safe to say a couple of months later her cancer was gone.
Ayurveda understands that emotional factors play a role in around two-thirds of our physical problems. Emotional release practise can be a very effective method of body healing.
Simple practices have immense healing powers and I am very excited for you to read this blog post. In fact, if there's a post I would like everyone to read it is this one.
Take a break if any of the steps make you feel uneasy. You could skip to Step 7 if you're in a hurry. You should be proud of your courage to delve into these challenging topics. Some of the feelings may lose their sting as your awareness grows. You can return to these steps as many times as necessary. There are often multiple layers of emotions to release.
It gets easier as you go through the process again and again. Instead of becoming locked inside, your emotions begin to flow through you.
Step 1: Ask yourself, what is it within me that is causing me to react?
Understanding that no one can make you feel something. Relationships are a mirror and everything that we experience with or in other people is in some way a projection of ourselves.
It's easy to assume you don't have control over your emotions when they're so strong. It's beneficial to consider what previous concepts or tales the feelings are based on, as well as what aspects of yourself you may not be completely recognising and accepting. You are less vulnerable to the acts of others when you accept responsibility for your feelings. Remember that if your emotional condition is dependent on the actions and words of others, your happiness will always be at their mercy.
You have the ability to choose how you understand and respond to your experiences. This is the key to the first stage in emotional body repair.
Step 2: Identify the emotion
Here we need to be as specific and non--judgmental as possible- no emotion is inherently 'good' or 'bad' despite what we have been taught. Close your eyes for a moment and recall an emotional experience that is causing you anguish or suffering. In your mind's eye, see the situation clearly and vividly. Make a list of all the emotions you're experiencing—there may be more than one. The more detailed you are, the more concentrated you will be on the emotional anguish you are attempting to release. Allow yourself as much time as you need to express your emotions.
Often times emotions such as sadness, anger or guilt have reputations of being rather unpleasant and to be honest I would much rather feel joy than sadness. However each emotion serves a specific purpose and that is exactly why no emotion is 'bad'. The emotion is there for a reason. It is a guide. It could even lead to your very salvation. The funny thing is that more often than not it's the negative emotions that lead to some kind of awakening or positive change. For example if you are experiencing anger towards your mother for calling you fat. That anger, whilst being unpleasant serves a very important purpose. Maybe you need to practice self acceptance and that could lead you towards a journey of self love which you can then share with others. In fact you could break the unhealthy ancestral trauma of thinking that being thing is beautiful due to this very angry. Or maybe that anger is due to self denial. Perhaps you really do need to lose weight for your health.
Step 3: Where in your body are you feeling the emotion
Pay attention to your body. Keep an eye out for any bodily sensations that are linked to the emotional recollection. Find the spot on your body where the emotion is lodged. It could be tight, stiff, uneasy, or painful.
It's fine if you don't have any bodily sensations at first. Please take your time. Relax, take a deep breath, and try shifting your focus back to your body's actual feelings. Before the feeling can be processed further, the strong energy of the emotion must be dispersed at times. It's a good idea to use your breath to connect with your body. You'll eventually be able to detect the physical manifestations of your suppressed emotions, as well as hear the underlying message they're expressing.
The breath can be a very powerful healing method in this step. If you feel the emotion, taking conscious deep breathes can help you feel the emotion and release its charge. Sometimes we could have been carrying an emotion with us for decades and not realise that it was might have been associated with a story we've bene telling ourselves, a limiting belief or negative pattern.
Step 4: Release the emotion with a ritual
The more we can release the emotion the less likely it is going to linger around. If you're angry try going for a run, scream in a pillow. If you're sad cry! Please, let the tiers roll down your cheeks. Dance, do yoga, draw, write, whatever it could be, release it. Just make sure you're actually tuning into the emotion when doing such activities rather than distracting yourself from them.
Remember, emotions are energy in motion. So bring your inner world to life with their charge. The act of releasing emotion sets a line between who you were in the past and who you are now.
Step 5: Express the emotion in private to ourselves
Release yourself from reliving the situation over and over again in your head. Let yourself and your future relationships be free from this toxicity. Allow yourself to thrive.
Put your thoughts and feelings into writing. By getting the words onto paper, the emotionally painful experience loses its grip on your body. Keep it private. Use it for its therapeutic qualities.
The act of writing is an important part of the emotional clearing process and brings you another step closer to freeing yourself from the heavy burdens of the past and moving into the future with self-love and compassion.
Why not write a letter to who you're angry towards for your own sake even. This will help you foster emotions of:
1) Acceptance towards yourself, the situation and people involved, which is usually the first step towards any kind of emotional healing.
2) Surrendering to the situation and understanding that what is in the past is in the past, which you cannot change, you can only learn from what happened.
3) Understanding yourself and the people involved and perhaps even how to make better choices in the future.
4) Forgiveness towards yourself and others, after all, the act of forgiving someone frees you more than anyone else, especially from feelings of resentment that can linger in destructive ways in the body.
Step 6: Share the emotion (with a good listener)
Explain to the listener why you're sharing your experience with them—not to gain feedback or "fix" the situation, but to let go of the suffering.
Request that the other person listen without interrupting or giving suggestions.
A friend or a therapist can be great, if you're alone do it with an object, a pet or a guardian angel even. There will be a lot of listening on my behalf if you choose to work with me on emotional cleansing (you can join my waiting-list here). Explain to the listener why you're sharing your experience with them—not to gain feedback or "fix" the situation, but to let go of the suffering.
Step 7: Celebrate!
The fruit of our labour should be rewarded! Anything we can do to symbolise our thanks to our higher self for showing up and doing the uncomfortable work is going to help you continue such positive habits in the future.
You could schedule a massage, going out with friends, cook a nice meal, anything really that you enjoy will do the trick ;)
Another very healing and empowering way you could celebrate is by giving back, volunteering or donating to an organisation that you associate your suffering with to help others overcome the very thing you just did!
You can do this by yourself or with others, as long as you appreciate yourself for having the guts to go through this emotional cleansing.
Here's a quick recap:
Session 5: Emotions is now complete.
Take a few moments to think about what you've learnt before you leave.
Here's a quick recap:
-> Your ego-identity is the source of object-referral. It's when your self-worth is defined by external variables and your enjoyment is derived from them.
-> Your spirit-identity is the source of self-referral. It's when joy arises from within.
->All emotions are based on a sense of ease or discomfort.
-> Fear-based reactions are restrained and rudimentary. They are Reactive and Fight-Flight-Freeze.
-> Love-based reactions are diverse and evolving. They are Sacred, Intuitive, Creative, Visionary, and Restful consciousness.
Sending you courage, strength and hope,